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My only advice is that you should be very careful of that relationship. If the guy had not tasted it before, that would have a different issue. This brings to fore a very good question for you to answer. Did your man enjoy having IT with you during those 'sinful' period? I'm confussed. It will be very difficult to leave something you enjoy that is not illegal. Even, those hire assassins enjoy killing and that is why it is always difficult to quit.
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| Cody |
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Reply with quote | #77 |
it is wrong to have sex b4 marriage bcuz it is against God and its a sin the bible says no one should have sex outside of marriage meaning u shouldnt have sex before u get married or have sex with another person when ur married!!!!! so i say safe ur self until ur married and only have sex with ur wife |
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| mcwalka |
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Reply with quote | #78 |
do you want to be lucky then belive you are luck being alive. not just being alive but being alive and not insane, that is the luckiest thing on earth. |
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Reply with quote | #79 |
well,to my understanding of sex before married is : it's a special thing and what some must understand is things happen that we sometimes can't do anything about. yes,having sex before marriage is a sin but people sin everyday. so if u sin doing everythimg else why can't u sin and have sex before marriage. and speaking as a young person these days marriage do not last anyway how many marriages can you actually say that you are known to last. it make me scared to ever get married. because being married is like having a boyfriend it don't last. and god don't forgive devorce either because u stud before him and pleged to have and hold so what can u say about that it's a sin. Because you lied before god that's a sin are you forgetting that. |
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OK, This is simple. There are many reasons why you should NOT have sex before marriage. But it's like this, every time you have sex with someone you give them a little piece of your heart. is if you go around having sex before you get married to someone there could be tons for girls that you have this "Close intimate relationship" with. You don't have as much of your heart to give to your wife. Sex should be more then just making your self feel good, its to create intimacy with your wife. The other thing that happens when you have sex with a lot of other people is that once you get married it makes you that much more susceptible to cheat on your wife. I know its hard to put into perspective, but just think about it.
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Reply with quote | #81 |
ok, its like this...man and woman meet. Both are virgins and agree to wait till marriage to have sex. Date for a few years, fall in love and get married. Wedding night is fast, they know part A,(male) goes into part B,(female). He never having been there before, lasts about 30 seconds, for her no fireworks, no orgasm, just 30 seconds of pain. Both partners are worthless in bed. She gets pregnant, has baby and wants nothing to do with sex because it hurts. He gets porn and pleasures himself because she says no to sex. Soon comes divorce. After divorce they both find out what they have been missing from holding out till marriage, get lots of experience with new partners and kick themselves in the ass for waiting till marriage to have sex. |
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Reply with quote | #82 |
i don't think their is anything wrong with sex before marriage, as long as your carefull and take precautions then their's no problem. I think if you wait till your married to have sex then your always going to be thinking 'whats out their' and then i think their is more chance of cheating and your marriage breaking! |
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Reply with quote | #83 |
I have recently participated in sexual intercourse for the first time with my girlfriend...i am catholic and all my life i have been told that it is against everything i believe and that it is a mortal sin. I understood that it was totally bad until someone told me that if you trully loved someone and you knew that you were going to be with them for the rest of your life then their wasnt really anything wrong with it. so after 3 and a half years of dating my girlfreind and i decided that we were going going to try it..afterwards we had no regrets and felt completely comfortable talking about it and communicating when it happened... after that my views changed and thats why i am on the opinion site. i feel that it is not a sin if you trully love someone and you have been with them more than a night or even a year... to this day we still laugh at stories we didnt ;know about each other.. it goes to show you that it takes years of getting to know someone until you really know them.... although we are not married or for that matter engaged, and we are in college, i feel that were are more qualified than couples who are married. i feel that we share the compassion for one another that is only talked about in movies... sooo is it wrong???
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Reply with quote | #84 |
for that last message not that i wore a condom and she was on birth control so worrying was almost completely out of the question... if theres nothing but pleasure and happiness (no worrying) then the experience should be amazing. |
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| michael karn |
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Show me exactly in the bible where it says "do not have sex before married"!! I am 19 years old and have been with my girlfriend for almost two years now and we both believe in god. We have had sex before and i wanna know what is wrong with that? I mean we both love each other and are living three hours apart during college. We are surviving the distance and know we will be together until one of us dies. Why is sex wrong for us? |
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Ok, I'm 16 turning 17 in 3 months, personally I don't think there is anything wrong with premarital sex as long as YOU feel comfortable about it and you're the legal age to be having sex. Some people never get married and if they want to have sex but not until marriage then they are gonna stay a virgin their whole life which would suck for them major big time...... By the way way people the 'bible' and the whole God thing is a bunch of crap from someones over active imagination. If God loved us all then why is 'evil' happening? That book is just a sick racist, sexist, homophobic piece of crap!
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Reply with quote | #87 |
1 Corinthians 7:9
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.I think the bible (and God) is clear on this issue. |
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Reply with quote | #88 |
It causes broken hearts. I'm speaking from experience. I've been abstinant for 7 years now (no sex), and it really it easier, and alot of self-respect, and respecting of other people. It is difficult sometimes, but not having sex doesn't put of another person, and in fact you're more likely to win the heart of someone special if you hold back on giving what you have (yourself) to someone who is worthy of you, someone who loves you so much that they will marry you even though they havn't had sex with you. People say they want to test drive before buying a car. But I would say, would you buy underwear that someone else has tried on and worn for a day first? Or would you buy an apple someone has half eaten! |
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Reply with quote | #89 |
If you find yourself too sexually aroused to abstain from sex, I recommmend prayer (ask Jesus for help), also give yourself a break from the things that arouse you most (for example, being alone in your bedroom with your girlfiend or boyfriend). Try you get to know each other more in other ways. Bond! Try doing things together for the Lord - help out at homeless centre, or start up a bible study 'group', or do some activity together like tennis, use your imagination! If you're not ready to commit, you're not ready to marry. And condoms are not failsafe. And abortions are very emotionally painful. Those who I know who have had them, have never forgotten. There is a good reason why God keeps this special and wonderful gift til marriage. In an a atomic power station, atomic power can create energy we use for are homes. An atomic bomb out of a power station, and destroy homes. Marriage is a safe place for this powerful passion. I am pro sex, but kept in marriage. |
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Reply with quote | #90 |
BTW, I'm in a prayer group. Have been for about 5 and 6 years now. Two of the girls with in the prayer group during that time have got married. One was 23 and a virgin. She got married last year. The guy also became a christian during the time they dated. And they waited til marriage. The other was 27. She had had previous relationships (with sex), but dedicated herself to Christ and to waiting. Then about 2 years later, she met a guy (who became a christian during the time they dated - although be careful with dating whilst someone is becoming a christian), and they waited til marriage. They now have a little daughter and another baby on the way. Waiting is worth it. In both of these situations, the guys became christians during the time they dating. Certianly I imagine the girls being christians did have an influence. But strangely, both girls had previously dated christian guys who where also waiting but didn't turn out to be the right person. So there are christian guys waiting out there too. A christian guy I met did have an influence on me. We didn't get together, although I did like him. I had so much respect for him. I havn't met anyone yet, but I really think I'll know if a guy likes me *alot if he's prepared to wait. I have met people who have shown interest, and I've liked people too, but, yep still single - but single is a whole state to be in. |
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