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Reply with quote | #61 |
Hi Christy, keep it up. Its not going to be easy along the way especially when you finally fall in love with someone you adore so much. The pressure is much ahead so you have to be strong and keep your pride |
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i have recently received a project in french class. for our project we must create a debate on why it is good to have sex at 16 can anyone help?
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| FOLORUNSHO MOSHOOD |
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Reply with quote | #63 |
Sex at 16: For pro-creation or for pleasure? Age 16 might be too early. If it is for pro-creation, I think the benefit of having sex at that age is for future investment. By the time the mother is 32, the child will be 16. The mother stands to gain more from the child before reaching old-age and vice-versa. |
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Reply with quote | #64 |
I believe sex has always been seen in a wrong and bad way for way too long. Often people say sex is lust, sex is a sin and sex is evil. That's one perception that I find very disturbing because sex is very beautiful and pleasurable. Just because its pleasurable, that does not make it a lust or sin. Its only when sex gets out of control that it becomes bad. Same thing for sex before marriage. Sex is a very special thing that is shared between a couple unless its done for the wrong reasons. Human beings are all different and have different sexual needs. So, if we take away the context of religion, I feel if sex is done with your loved one i.e your girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife, I believe there is nothing wrong if you do it the responsible and safe way. One thing you do not want to learn after you get married is that you are sexually active but your wife/husband has low sex drive. Then what? Do you file for a divorce? or either one has to give in to the other person's needs. If the low sex drive partner always say NO, then it creates a problem. That is when people starts to cheat on their spouse. When you know you want something but your partner is unable to give it to you, and you're constantly disappointed, then some people will look for alternatives and we do not want that to happen to our relationship and family. So, I totally feel that having sex before marriage is a good way to know each other besides all the other things that we should learn before commiting ourselves to getting married. If you put it in a simple way, you don't meet a person today and get married the next day. You need to learn about the person and get to know them better and sex and intimacy plays its role in a relationship also. There are so many wonders of sex, so many benefits and yet until today, in the modern world we are still so blind to see it and stick with our sterotyped and old fashioned thinking that sex is so negative. How many cases do we hear that married couples have sex related problems that their partner is unable to give them pleasure or make them achieve orgasm etc...this is a problem but people fail to see that.
I know I am nobody to challenge religion and God but sometimes I feel certain things is very difficult to change especially when we put religion and God into the equation. Who dares to stand up against God? Even if you do, you'll be fighting a losing battle.
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Reply with quote | #65 |
I think im my humble opinion that sex should only be allowed after a certain legal age and if the couple knows what they are doing and doing it in the right manner. Sex before or after marriage should be determined by the couples themselves and not because the bible said so or your mama told you so. If a couple decides NOT to have sex AFTER marriage, that's fine too and entirely up to them if they feel happy about it. But restricting people from doing it out of 'love' and make them feel guilty is in my opinion wrong. If you tell me a guy wants to do a stranger or a hooker or his family member, then its WRONG. But if a guy or girl wants to do it with their partner whom they really love, then I do not see the sin in that. Love is very pure and clean, and I do not see why sex can suddenly make it dirty just because we judge by when it is done. And by this i mean before or after marriage. Before its deemed dirty but after marriage its suddenly pure and clean and ok. If somebody would come up to you and tell you that hey, if you sleep before 11pm its a sin but if you sleep after 11pm you're clean. I think the first thing that comes to your mind is that the person is crazy or something. Sleep is sleep no matter what time you sleep and sex is sex. Everything is good unless we abuse it and do things irresponsibly. The only limiting factor I believe its good to have is legal age of having sex. You do not want young kids to have sex as they like even though they are in love because their minds have not matured properly yet. They do not think as deeply as adults do.
The other thing would be, if a person doesn't get married so he'll forever live a life without knowing how nice sex can be. That would suck big time. Its like not having a childhood. I also know some people want to reserve their virginity for the special one, their spouse hence believing in Sex After Marriage. In some cultures it is not acceptable if a person who is not a virgin gets married with a virgin. But in our world today, we have so many issues regarding race and religion. Those are bad enough and do we still need another issue of virginity? If you love a person, would you suddenly lose the love or hate the person if you found out he/she is not a virgin? If yes, I really doubt your true meaning of love. Sometimes I really wonder why people see sex so differently. It can be seen to be something as simple as a kiss or a hug that you do with your loved one but sadly with all the education and technology we have to day, many people are still stuck in the anxient times. I find that very sad 
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Reply with quote | #66 |
Sex before marriage is so wrong. it says in the bible that your body is Gods temple. He created it and you do not need to do anything to destroy it. I personally believe that you should not have sex before marriage. |
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| babylicious |
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Reply with quote | #67 |
No i don't, you only live once an experiencing at a young age will make you understand that you do make mistakes, but you can also learn from them at a more older and yet mature manner........... |
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Reply with quote | #68 |
Dear Patricia
I'm sorry to say this but you sound pretty needy I may be wrong but if the guy wants to hang out with his friends you should let him. Just because you kissed him and had sex with him doesn't mean he owes you anything , nor do you owe him anything. Its wrong to expect him to do whatever you want him to.
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Reply with quote | #69 |
I personaly think that there is nothing wrong with sex before marriage as long as kids arent dummies about it. It's important that we educate teenagers about sex so that if they do have sex the know to use protection. I hate the fact that society tends to make sex seem taboo and wrong before marriage. The same factors apply to after marriage sex as it does to before marriage sex, a married couple can just as easily have sex and make a child. Just because a couple is married it does not mean they are mature enough or stable enough for the responsibilities of a child. A married couple can even contract STD, just because one spouse chose to not have sex it does not mean the other spouse did. If a teenager wants to have sex i think its perfectly normal and natural, but they should know to practice safe sex. |
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Reply with quote | #70 |
You are absolutely right Scooby. Even if it is a taboo, underneath every taboo is a secret desire - Sgmund Freud. |
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| Lexy |
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Reply with quote | #71 |
Someone please tell me what some of you are trying to say!!!
If you don't wait until marriage it is a sin not because people got pregnant, but because its what god wanted. If someone lies now a days do you still think its a sin. There are some people that can control; themselves and wait for marriage. I'm a teenager and I think your ridiculous if you think there isn't self control and that the bible isn't truth.
HAVE FUN IN HELL
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Reply with quote | #72 |
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 & 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband."
Our lives as Christians are a living witness to others and we cannot break the laws of God without hindering others from coming to Christ. We must live our lives in purity before a sinful and wicked world. We should not be living according to their standards but according to God's standard in the Bible. No couple should live together outside the bonds of marriage. |
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| Taiwo Ogundimu |
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Reply with quote | #73 |
Scooby, Patricia, Mosh and others are right about their contributions. But all I can say is to advise Parents and Guardians, to start teaching Sex Education to their children, by not stopping them from doing it. But make them realize the Good and the Bad aspect of it all. Because every human being is ever curios about whatever you ask them not to Do, Touch or See. But if we make the risk known to them, we may be doing them a lot of goods Thank you.
Tai
Quote: Originally Posted by Nads
Dear Patricia
I'm sorry to say this but you sound pretty needy I may be wrong but if the guy wants to hang out with his friends you should let him. Just because you kissed him and had sex with him doesn't mean he owes you anything , nor do you owe him anything. Its wrong to expect him to do whatever you want him to.
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| Ryan Warn |
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Reply with quote | #74 |
Hello my name is ryan warn i live in brachburg nj and im in 9th grade. i all ready had sex with ONE girl whos name i dont even remember. I think that it is okay to have sex before marrige because i read the whole bible and there is nothing in it that says the word sex, okay bye |
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| Maureen |
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Reply with quote | #75 |
I have been in a relationship for five and a half years with a catholic man, I am protestant. After 2 years I moved in with him and after 1 month all sex stopped as he said we were living in sin and it was wrong. I was astounded as the previous 2 years we had a great sex life. We continued for a further 2 years but due to this problem plus I had family problems, I moved back to my flat which I had been renting out. Anyhow, I thought our relationship couldnt survive and it would fizzle out but it hasnt and we still see each other but no sex. I have sent away the forms to have my marriage annulled so we can get married but I very much doubt we will ever get our sex life back. From time to time I make a big issue about all this cos I feel unloved, unattractive and goodness knows what this has done for my confidence but I am still with this guy. I am really looking for comments from people who have maybe been in this situation or guidance, or whatever I am not sure. I do love him and I know he loves me, he is very affectionate and we kiss and cuddle a lot - just no sex !!! Please help !! |
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