Hayden is absolutely right and correct and I’m really impressed by his analysis on the matter before us because that was the doctrine they fed us with right from our formative stage 'close your eyes and a miracle that will multiply your food will happen'. We now know the truth; the hands that added more food while we closed our eyes for prayers were not the hands of God after all. We should desist from using the scriptures to teach our children sexual moral. Let them know, through deliberation and not by any contradictory scripture, the pros and cons of 'abstinence' when they are young and the pros and cons of 'faithfulness' when they are married. Democratically expose them to the attendant trade-offs. Please tell your children in clear terms that there is Happiness In Virginity (HIV) or Happiness In Virtue (HIV) and that sex is worth waiting for. Sex is actually worth waiting for but you must know the person you want to spend the rest of your life with sexually so as not to have a broken marriage.

Most of the scriptures are spiritual anthologies written by several spiritual poets and novelists. In the New Testament, John, James, Peter, Matthew and others contributed to the anthology. Had it been Judas Iscariot were to be alive at that time when others got the inspiration to write, perhaps, he would have written the best piece. Do you think Peter was more creative than Judas? Look at the two sins they both committed and you will be the better judge. Scriptures written about one thousand years ago by these human beings...Did Peter know about HIV/AIDS in his life time?

“Goye into the world and multiply” and so brothers were sleeping with sisters in the beginning. What about the prophet that had it… oh… sorry, married blood sisters? What about the prophet that impregnated his wife’s servant? The other scripture says that it was the wife who lured her husband into sleeping with her servant because they were suffering from childlessness? God is watching all the writers/contributors/interpreters of these anthologies and will judge them accordingly because they are misleading us. Tell the children in clear terms that they should Avoid Intimacy During Singlehood (AIDS) to avoid HIV/AIDS.

Prophet Moses came and he was given the 10 commandments-'Thou Shall Nots'. Jesus Christ came and he started washing away sins with His blood-a very big loophole, an opportunity for the youth to commit atrocities. The youths know very well that if they engage in pre-marital sex, if they commit abortion, they would go on their bended knees before the Mesiah and the sins would be washed with His blood. Oh goodness! But how many cases of HIV/AIDS has the Messiah solved since its discovery in 1981? How many lost wombs, as a result of abortion, has he replaced? In Africa, especially in Nigeria potential bridegrooms nowadays want to be sure the wombs of potential brides are fertile before taking them to altar? One scripture says you cannot enter paradise if you are not married while another scripture prefers CELIBACY. So, we have Nuns, Reverend Fathers and Reverend Sisters that will die in CELIBACY. But we know how some of these pious men and women secretly quench their libidinous fire. I laugh! Deliberation is the answer!

Lay your hand on any record of HIV/AIDS, get any record on criminal activities, you will notice that the youths are more vulnerable, because of all these loopholes and contradictions embedded in the scriptures. Deliberate with the youths, talk and preach to the youths in clear terms and not through any scripture.

i think thats good having sex before getting marriage all people do  it and they like it

My name is Patricia Leo from Huntington Park California I knew a guy at Macys were I used to work name Arsen from Burbank California.  We were dating getting to know each other, He started out great I believe because I did'nt have sex with him.  I was happy with him I liked him he told me he was very interested in me I trusted him I had sex with him in his car later when I was done I was sad I told him "Im affraid that you might walk away" He told me to trust him that he wont hurt me.  I trusted him with my body cause I notice that he would still stick by me still talk to me so I kept having sex with him.  I got mad with him once cause he told me that he wont be able to see me cause he is going to a friends party.  I told him if I could go with him and he said " for what it is a family party" so then we argue. I send a text message to him telling him to leave me alone because he told me he didnt want anything serious with me. I wanted something serious with him. He called me over the phone and I did'nt answer so then he told me once that he was never my boyfriend after we kissed and had sex. So now he does not answer my calls or return my calls.  I taught that something bad had happen to him that he would not return my calls, but then I called again and he hangs up the phone on me five times.  I got hurt emotionally and felt used, I felt regret due to the fact that he was ignoring me and due to the fact that I trusted him with my body.  Right now I don't know if he will every look for me again. I hope that he does not see me as a hooker.  Sex before marriage can led to regret if the guy does not support you. I had felt like I was nothing.